John Duggan

1930 - 1984
LocationLimerick , City , Ireland
Age53 years
Cause of DeathHeart Attack
Date of Birth13/06/1930
Date of Death07/04/1984
Visitors581 since 11/01/2009
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Please See Me Through My Tears
by Kelly Osmont

You asked, "How am I doing?"
As I told you, tears came to my eyes...
and you looked away and quickly began to talk again.
All the attention you had given me drained away.

"How am I doing?"...I do better when people listen,
though I may shed a tear or two.
This pain is indescribable.
If you've never known it you cannot fully understand.
Yet I need you.
When you look away,
When I'm ignored,
I am again alone with it
Your attention means more than you can ever know.

Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know!
They're nature's way of helping me to heal...
They relieve some of the stress of sadness.

I know you fear that asking how I'm doing brings me sadness
...but you're wrong.
The memory of my loved one's death will always be with me,
Only a thought away.
My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not
give me the pain...it was already there.

When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless, not knowing
what to do?
You are not helpless,
And you don't need to do a thing but be there.
When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow,
you've helped me
You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need.
Be patient...do not fear.

Listening with your heart to "how I am doing"
relieves the pain,
for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter.

Talking to you releases what I've been wanting to say aloud,
clearing space
for a touch of joy in my life.

I'll cry for a minute or two...
and then I'll wipe my eyes,
and sometimes you'll even find I'm laughing later.

When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight,
my chest aches, my stomach knots...
because I'm trying to protect you from my tears.
Then we both hurt...me, because my pain is held inside,
a shield against our closeness...and you,
because suddenly we're distant.

So please, take my hand and see me through my tears...
then we can be close again

Bon Nxxx

January 11, 2009

THE RAINBOW BRIDGE

Just this side of heaven is a place called rainbow bridge.
When a person dies that has been especially close to someone here, that person goes to rainbow bridge.
There are hills and meadows, for all our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food,water, and sunshine, and our friends are warm and content.
All the people that have been ill and old are restored to health and vigour; those who were hurt are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in times and days gone by.
The people are happy and content. except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; his eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carry him faster and faster.
You have been spotted and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again.
The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, you look once more into the trusting eyes of your dad, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge Together...

Lona Buxton

January 11, 2009

Dad

Even though its been a long time ago
its still hard on me most of the time
dad , I still miss you a lot dad

Love Mary

Mary Nunan (Daughter)

January 11, 2009
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